YOU ARE NOT THE PERSON I MARRIED

Basic Second Law of Thermodynamics is that things gradually fall apart — into a state of disorder and disrepair. As powerful as gravity, the overwhelming force of the world’s natural tendencies is hard to beat.  It is no surprise that, as humans, we too peak in our state of optimal growth and then our systems, […]

Good Samaritan Divorce

Is there a price tag to being a Good Samaritan in Divorce?  “A Good Samaritan — a charitable or helpful person.”  There are infinite ways of exercising kindness to one’s spouse during a divorce, but we will focus on the timing of divorce here.   Sometimes, in a divorce, one party needs more time while the […]

When Children Are Treated Like Chattel in Divorce; Don’t Let Your Kids Get Lost in the Shuffle!

As parents go through the pain of divorce, it can become a petty competition between spouses, and the children become the rope in an ugly, unfair tug-o-war.  People going through divorce may get reduced to their own worst, most childlike state. They may project a lot of what’s happening to them onto the children. They […]